What steps can I take?

Even if the person is not your friend, you can still help

You might think that it is not up to you to do something and that the person’s friends will step in but when we do nothing; we are saying that it is ok for that person to be humiliated and embarrassed by having their photo(s) shared publicly.

Act fast to stop them being shared more

The quicker that a photo or video can be reported, the less chance there is of them spreading more widely.

This can be done directly to the platform (e.g Facebook, Snapchat, Youtube etc) or through Netsafe (or both).


Don’t Jump on the Bandwagon

Even if you don’t like the person very much or think they made a mistake, don’t jump on the bandwagon to make them feel even worse.  That’s just mean.

Their reputation will have already taken a dent and they do not need you to join in.

Put yourself in their shoes and challenge other people who are ‘slut shaming’ or gossiping.


Talk to someone about it 

It can be difficult to figure out what to do yourself and talking it through with someone can help you decide what to do next.

It can be helpful to share what is happening with someone else so you can talk it through.  You can get a different perspective, advice or work out what the best steps are together.

You will know who you feel most comfortable reaching out to.

This could be:

  • Friends
  • Youth Workers
  • School Guidance Counsellors
  • Teachers, Deans or Senior Leaders at your school
  • Your church/synagogue/temple or mosque
  • Your parents or other members of your family
  • Sports Coaches
  • Mentors

They could then support you to get in touch with more support if you need it.


Don’t Pass it on or Share it

It can sometimes be really tempting to share the photo with your friends or in a group chat.

Doing this, even within a closed group could make it spread even more (you do not control the actions of your friends) and could even put you at risk of having a complaint made against you for sharing a nude image without permission.


Get in touch with Netsafe for advice

Netsafe are an experienced, non-profit organisation with a helpline set up to help people with online safety and online issues.

They have an experienced team that can speak to you about the options available (even if it is not about you personally)