Nikita’s Story: Being asked over Snapchat
Nikita talks about chatting to someone over Snapchat and starting to really like him and then what happened when she said no to his request for nudes.
If this is the first time you’ve received nude images from this person, they may be experimenting with you or looking for a reaction or response.
If you ignore the message, this can often give the signal that you are not interested in seeing any more.
It can be really tempting to share the photo with your friends or even ‘name and shame’ the sender publicly.
You might think it ‘will teach the person a lesson’ so that they won’t do it again.
Even though you have not asked for the photo, the person that sent it has not given you permission to share it and the person that you send it on to has not asked to see it either. Let it stop with you.
Sharing a nude, even within a closed group could put you at risk of having a complaint made against you for sharing a nude image without permission.
If someone you know sent you the photo or video (and you didn’t ask for it), you might want to simply ask “Why would you send me that picture?” and see what they say.
It might have been a genuine mistake or a misunderstanding. This gives them an opportunity to explain themselves before you decide what to do next (if anything). It also gives you a chance to let them know why you don’t want to receive photos like that and how you feel about them.
All Social Media platforms have reporting tools and nudes would breach most of their standards.
Taking a screenshot of the photo and any messages sent alongside it can help you with your reporting.
You can also stop the chance of receiving any more nudes from the person by blocking them.
Check out the icons below to find out how to REPORT and BLOCK on the different platforms.
If you do want to reply, you have a range of ways to do this depending on the situation and whether you know the sender.
It is important not to do this in the heat of the moment and to think carefully before replying.
It can often be really weird, creepy or unsettling to receive a nude out of nowhere.
It can be helpful to share what happened with someone else so you can talk it through. You can get advice or work out whether you need to take it further.
Sometimes the person sending you the pictures might be a friend who misinterpreted the signs and thought you wanted to be ‘more than friends’.
This can get complicated, especially if it’s just an ‘innocent misunderstanding’.
You could try making a joke out of the situation to keep it light hearted, or you could simply be straight up and say that the two of you are just mates. Even though it might be tempting to share the photos with your friends, this can be an offence under the Harmful Digital Communications Act (even if you did not ask for the photos in the first place).
You could try making a joke out of the situation to keep it light hearted, or you could simply be straight up and say that the two of you are just mates.
Even though it might be tempting to share the photos with your friends, this can be an offence under the Harmful Digital Communications Act (even if you did not ask for the photos in the first place).
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Nat talks about getting a dick pic from a friend’s account and not being sure how to react. Later she finds out that his account had been hacked so lets him know what happened.
Shannon talks about when a photo was taken up her skirt at her school without her knowing and then shared.
Eve talks about sending nudes in a long term relationship and how this stayed positive.
Mia talks about chatting with a guy online for a few months and then sending nudes after he had asked and how he wouldn’t talk to her afterwards.
Beth shares about her experience with a guy using his charm to try to get a nude from her friend, and from her.
Bailey talks about sending a nude and then being blackmailed to send more.
Steph talks about being asked to send nudes from her boyfriend and what happened when she said no.
Anna talks about being contacted by a stranger on Snapchat and being offered money to send him nudes.
Kelly talks about getting a ‘dick pic’ randomly, what she did about it and how it made her feel.
Cody talks about what happened to one of his friend’s when the guy she was with videoed them having sex and then shared it in groups online.