Some options to say No

Simply say “No”.

There are heaps of different ways that you can say no.

Be direct: You could say something like:

  • “No thanks”
  • “I don’t want to”
  • “It makes me uncomfortable and I would rather not”.

Delay: You could give yourself some time and space by saying things like:

  • Sorry my phone is on 3%
  • I am at dinner with my family so now is not a good time
  • You could even send a copy of a ‘loading’ screen

Ask some questions: You might want to start with a question

  • You having a rough day?
  • Where has this come from?
  • Have you thought about how this would make me feel?

It’s not about making them feel bad.

They might be feeling pressured as well, thinking that everyone else is doing it so they should too.  They might not have thought about your feelings as much as their own.

If they keep on asking even after you have said no, you might think that telling them that what they are doing is not ok.


Use Humour

You will know when humour will work and when this might backfire.

In some situations using humour does not work.  It just makes a situation worse.  It is up to you to make the call about whether it is the best approach.


  • You could send a photo of a nude eyeshadow palette
  • You could say “Sure, what’s your fax number and I’ll send it through…”
  • You could send a picture of a nude Barbie doll
  • You could take a photo of your room with the lights off and the caption ‘Too dark?’

There are also some apps that have been specifically designed to do this for you if you want some help to work out what to send back.

Check out Send this Instead

This was designed in Canada and they describe how they created it by saying

“We asked all the funny people we knew, “What would you say if someone asked you to send images you didn’t want to?” We took their answers and made posters and developed this app. The posters are witty, sarcastic and meant to help get the point across – using humour as a strategy”.

You can also check out Zipit

This was designed in the UK by Childline alongside a team of young people.

They describe it like this:

If someone’s trying to get you to send them naked images of yourself, use the fully updated Zipit app to keep the situation under control.

Zipit helps you to respond to unwanted chat with the power of GIFs. We’ve made our own and also chosen a selection of top ones from GIPHY.


Block or report the person

Each platform has a range of options you can use, including updating your Privacy settings.

They are all different, pick the platform you’re on from the section below and we’ll show you how.

Don’t reply

Not replying is always an option. Just because someone contacts you doesn’t mean you have to respond.

Keep in mind that they might give up and move on OR they might be persistent and then you may need to use another strategy.