What steps can I take?

Consider contacting the person who made the comment

If you know the person who commented and think that getting in touch directly would work, then this could be a quick and effective step.

They may not be aware that you would not want to be included or mentioned in comments or posts like this.  They may see it as totally ok or even a bit of fun.

Let them know that having something like this out there in the public space is not something that you want.

Do this  in a calm and clear way and let them know that you would like the post or comment deleted.

If you do not know the person but feel it is reasonable to ask them to take it down , and feel you can do this in a way that will not escalate the situation, choose your words carefully (maybe even get a friend to check it before you send it)


Get a second opinion

Talk to someone whose opinion you value and see what their take on it is.

They might have a different perspective to you and help you to look more objectively at the comment or post to decide whether anything needs to be done.

How does this influence the opinion of someone that does not know you?  If it has a negative impact, this is a good sign that leaving it up may not be the best option.


Get in touch with Netsafe

If you need help, advice or support with any kind of online issue, Netsafe can help. They are a non-profit organisation with a helpline set up to help people with online safety and online issues.

Netsafe have years of experience in helping young people deal with harm online, their service is free and confidential.

Find out more by visiting their website or checking out the services section.


Untag yourself

If you have been tagged in a post or comment and this is making more people you know see it, untag  yourself.

Check out the icons in the REPORT section below for how to do this.

Report it to admin

Public pages or groups will usually still have someone (or a few people) that take the responsibility as admin for what is put up.

You can report posts or comments to them so that they can review the content.

They also have the ability to remove the person from the group or even block them permanently.

On Facebook, the admin can send the comment onto the Facebook team if they choose rather than dealing with it themselves.


Report directly to the Platform

If there is not the option to report to the admin (or if you do not think they will review the post or comment objectively), you can report directly to the platform using the reporting tools.

Check out the icons below for more information on how to do this across the different platforms.


Adjust your settings

To make sure that you cannot be tagged in posts or comments in the future that you would rather not see (or have your friends and family see), change your settings so that you need to approve posts or comments before they go live.

Check out The TAKING CHARGE section for how to do this.

Take a break ?

You might want to take a break from Social Media to help get some space.

Spending time with people who make you smile, doing things you enjoy can help you not get stuck with comments or posts that are bringing you down.

If the group or page is somewhere that is regularly negative or makes fun of people then you might want to consider what you get out of being part of it.