Comments on different social media sites or forums can be removed or deleted.
But, just remember this may not actually solve the problem. You may want to take screenshots before you do so as evidence in case you want to report the comments other people have made in response to what you posted (or if more are made).
If things have got out of hand and the hate you are getting makes your original post seem like more trouble than it is worth, you might want to take it down.
This is not a magic bullet. You may still receive comments directly or be discussed on other platforms but it should remove the main motivation.
Social Media sites and Video Hosting sites take harassment, bullying and hate speech really seriously. They have reporting tools you can use to let them know what is happening.
Check out the icons below for how you can do this on the different platforms.
If things have escalated and you are feeling vulnerable or unsafe, you can report the comments to Netsafe.
They have a trained team that can assess the situation and work out what other options are available.
No one has the right to send hate that causes you ‘serious emotional distress’.
The Netsafe team will also let you know if you can take the matter further, to court or to the police.
Change your privacy settings.
You can change who sees your posts so that only your friends can see it to avoid random people you don’t know having strong opinions about what you share.
If it is on Youtube, you can turn off the comments option to avoid having to deal with hateful or nasty comments.
It is easy in the heat of the moment to get angry or upset and want to say something back.
However, just pause for a minute before you respond, to make sure that you don’t say something you may later regret.
Doing this could complicate the situation even further or even make it worse.
Try not to focus on what is being said by going back to check if there is new content, or how many people are liking or commenting, this will just keep you feeling really low.
Give yourself some space to spend time with people that care about you or doing things you enjoy.
This might mean spending some time offline so that you don’t get stuck in what is happening online.
Take some time to talk to someone about what is going on and how it is making you feel. Their perspective or experience might help you decide on your next steps.
Even if it doesn’t, opening up to someone means you are not holding onto all of that hurt on your own.
If there is not someone in your life that you feel comfortable talking to, you could get in touch with a counsellor or with one of the helplines.
Check out the SERVICES section for more information.
Harming someone by Targeting or Harassing them online can be against the law
In New Zealand, there is now a law to help tackle the most serious instances of harassment by people using digital technology.
This is the Harmful Digital Communications Act (HDCA).
It is illegal to send messages and post material online that deliberately causes a victim ‘serious emotional distress’ whether this happens once or more than once.
What does that mean?
It means that as well as reporting it to different Social Media Platforms, you have additional support available to you to get photos, other hurtful images or messages taken down and stop them from being shared again.
This can be through Netsafe, the District Court or the Police and can involve either criminal or civil remedies.
Criminal Remedies
Criminal remedies could include a fine of up to $50,000 (for an individual) or up to two years in jail.
There are also criminal OR civil remedies under the The Harmful Digital Communications Act (HDCA) if someone causes ‘serious emotional distress’ online.
The criminal remedies do not apply to children (aged 0-13), but can be applied to young people aged 14-16 (within the youth justice system) and individuals aged 17+ (who are treated as adults within the formal criminal justice system).
This also means that the police may be involved and that there is a clear process that is followed after you report what is happening. In some cases this will involve a court case.
It is important to remember that for the police to charge somebody with breaking a law, they have to have enough evidence to clearly prove who it was and exactly what happened.
The police also have to weigh up whether what is happening to you, meets all of the requirements of the law.
Sometimes, even though it is not ok and making you really upset, this is not enough to charge someone.
Civil Remedies
Netsafe can support you with some civil remedies including working with both parties to reach a resolution, working with online content hosts (like Social Media platforms) but they cannot punish anyone or force them to do something.
Civil remedies could also involve a court order where a person can be forced to remove or delete content, give an apology or the identity of someone who posted anonymously revealed.
What laws might apply?
The main one that is being used for someone bullying or harassing you online is the Harmful Digital Communications Act.
Other options or remedies are available under:
Netsafe is an organisation that can provide information and support as well as free and confidential advice when you are being hurt or targeted online.
They can:
How to contact them
You can make a report through their website https://www.netsafe.org.nz/report/ or you can free phone them seven days a week between 8am and 5pm on 0508 NETSAFE.
What happens when I make a report?
You can make the report yourself, or someone can do it on your behalf.
When you phone them, they will ask you questions so they can understand what’s going on, how long it has been happening, who is involved, what evidence you have and any other information to help them to evaluate your report.
When you make a report online, you will be asked to select from a range of multi choice questions to give information about the situation and the support you (or the person you are making the report for) is receiving, give your contact information and also a ‘short summary’ of what happened.
You will also be asked how concerned you are for your safety.
Whether you make your report by phone or using the online form, you will be given a report number that will create a ‘thread’ of emails to keep all of the communication together.
If you make your report online, you will then receive an email confirming your report has been received and that one of the team will be in touch once they have evaluated it using the contact details you gave in the form.
Helplines are there to help if you want to talk (kōrero) with someone about what is going on and how it is making you feel. You can openly and honestly share your feelings without worrying about being judged.
It’s normal to worry about asking for help – but at Youthline we are here to listen and help you figure out what is right for you.
0800 376 633 24/7 support
free text 234 between 8am and midnight
or email talk@youthline.co.nz
Online Chat
Youthline’s online chat service is open between 7pm-11pm
A safe place for you to talk about anything at all.
0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm.
Online chat is available 7pm–10pm daily Click HERE
They do say “Because a lot of young people use online chat, there is often a wait time before a counsellor is available. So if you need to speak to someone straight away, phone What’s Up and speak to a counsellor in person”
At Kidsline we think everyone needs to be heard, and we want to be here to talk things through with you, and listen to what’s happening to you. So give us a call, and talk to one of our Buddies!
0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age.
Kidsline is available 24/7 however if you ring between 4pm-9pm Monday – Friday you will speak to a Kidsline Buddy – a specially trained teenage telephone counsellor.
To get the lowdown on Helplines and what happens when you call, whether you are really anonymous and and heaps more info, check out the Sticks ‘n Stones website.
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