Being asked to send nudes can sometimes make you feel really uncomfortable. It can often make you feel embarrassed, ashamed or even violated.
Taking the first step and speaking to someone that you trust about what is going on and how you are feeling can help you to take steps to resolve the situation.
Together you can then get in touch with more support if you need it.
- Youth Workers
- School Guidance Counsellors
- Teachers, Deans or Senior Leaders at your school
- Your church/synagogue/temple or mosque
- Your parents or other members of your family
- Sports Coaches
Accessing a range of support to help you with different parts of what is causing you to feel worried, upset or distressed can be a really great way to get through (rather than choosing one and hoping they can do everything).
It could be worthwhile looking into some of the options below as well.
Other Support that could be helpful
Helplines are there to help if you want to talk (kōrero) with someone about what is going on and how it is making you feel.
You can also call if you know someone who may need help.
It’s completely okay to call or message a helpline – no problem is too big or small. You don’t have to ‘prove’ you deserve help.
It’s normal to worry about asking for help – but at Youthline we are here to listen and help you figure out what is right for you.
0800 376 633 24/7 support
free text 234 between 8am and midnight
or email email@example.com
Youthline’s online chat service is open between 7pm-11pm
A safe place for you to talk about anything at all
0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm.
Online chat is available 7pm–10pm daily Click HERE
They do say “Because a lot of young people use online chat, there is often a wait time before a counsellor is available. So if you need to speak to someone straight away, phone What’s Up and speak to a counsellor in person”
At Kidsline we think everyone needs to be heard, and we want to be here to talk things through with you, and listen to what’s happening to you. So give us a call, and talk to one of our Buddies!
0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age.
Kidsline is available 24/7 however if you ring between 4pm-9pm Monday – Friday you will speak to a Kidsline Buddy – a specially trained teenage telephone counsellor.
To get the lowdown on Helplines and what happens when you call, whether you are really anonymous and and heaps more info, check out the Sticks ‘n Stones website.
Aunty Dee ( https://www.auntydee.co.nz)
Aunty Dee is a free online tool for anyone who needs some help working through a problem or problems.
The information below is from their website.
It doesn’t matter what the problem is, you can use Aunty Dee to help you work it through.
Quite simply, Aunty Dee will guide you to:
- List your problems
- Generate Ideas
- Find a Solution
You can use Aunty Dee to work through one problem, or you can ask about many problems and use Aunty Dee over and over again – it’s completely up to you.
To get the lowdown on Online Tools and what is available, check out the Sticks ‘n Stones website.