What are some things to consider?

Other people don’t think this way

This is not the truth and you have people in your life that love and care for you.  Think about what they would say, they would not agree with what has been said.

Take some time to talk to them about what is going on so they can look out for you.

The problem is with the person that thinks it is ok to say things like this, not with you.


This is really serious and there is support available

Encouraging someone to commit suicide or kill themselves is illegal (even if the person does not try to hurt themselves).

It is really serious.

This means that you can make a complaint directly to the police.

Netsafe can also support you and give advice about whether making a complaint to the Police is an option for you.

They have a trained team available to answer any questions you might have and give you information and advice.  Find out more about them in the SERVICES section below.


Screenshot the messages

Keeping a record of the messages will help you to make a report to Netsafe, the Police or to the platform directly and to clearly show what has been said without any confusion.

Don’t respond

Replying to the messages usually makes things worse.  The person will often send more messages that can get more abusive or full on.

If you have taken some time to think things over and spoken to someone you trust about what is going on and have decided to respond, be brief and simply let them know the messages are not ok.

You can also let them know that you will be reporting the comments.


Use the Reporting tools and then Block Them

You do not have to accept these kinds of messages and all Social Media platforms take them really seriously and have tools available for you to use.

After making your report, block the sender and then check your PRIVACY SETTINGS to make sure that you can take charge of who can (and can’t) message you.

Check out the icons below to see the steps for making reports and blocking.


Take a break

It might be a good idea to take a break from Social Media for a bit and spend some time doing other things you really enjoy with people who care about you.

Messages like this can often make you feel really down and it is important to remember that they are not the truth. No one has the right to make you feel worthless.

Some time away from the situation can give you the chance to have some space and think about what steps you want to take to get support and resolve the situation.


Open up about it

Take some time to chat to someone that you trust about what has been going on and how it has been making you feel.

Make sure you ask if they have time to talk so that you are not interrupted or they are not in a rush (or in a bad head space themselves).

They might have experienced something similar that they can tell you about.   Talking it through (even if you do this via text or messaging) can help you to decide what to do next.